It is only in recent years that I have truly found my voice having stayed silent, putting up and shutting up and on the journey I discovered who I really was. Not the person I was told to be. Not the person I thought people expected me to be In certain circumstances, saying yes can offer benefits, though it's important to evaluate when this compromise is genuinely worthwhile. And only you can decide that

don't speak unless you are spoken to, little girls or seen and not heard. I could go on.

Finding the root cause of trauma,  pain and negative experiences and releasing them can be a powerful step towards you healing your life.